Something I’ve discovered while writing this blog is loneliness. I started writing because I was lonely. And I have had many conversations with men and women who are also lonely. Being single can be very lonelyBut even being coupled can be lonely. Being a parent is lonely. No one tells you this.
I know that you’re sometimes lonely. I also know that you’re not lonely all the time. But I know, most of you sometimes feel lonely. I think loneliness is more common than we as society make it seem. They say things like “enjoy being single” but they don’t admit to how hard that can be. And they don’t say that sometimes you will be in a relationship and feel really lonely then too. They tell you everything will be perfect once you have found someone to love, and it’s misleading for the single people, and for the coupled people. The stories say that love will come to those who wait, and just garden and sing or whatever until it happens. But that’s really hard. And then love comes, and it isn’t always pretty and perfect. It’s sometimes complicated and vulnerable and sad. We’re social beings that exist soley in the uncomforts of our own sculls. We interact and relate and seek praise and acceptance and love, but we only have access to our own, solitary minds.
So we need to acknowledge the loneliness we all feel. Because talking to other people who can say “I’m lonely too” makes the loneliness feel smaller. While we’re stuck in our own solitary minds, we really want to reach out and share a moment with another person. So share how you feel with another person. Write in a comment about how you are feeling, or respond to someone’s comment with a word of encouragement. This world, this humanity, it is lonely but we do not have to be alone. Comment anonymously if you like (that’s the option at the bottom of the list of ways to comment and won’t require any special information or pre-existing accounts), but be sure to sign off in your comment with a name or a pseudonym, so that people can address you by name when they respond. We have a community here. Access it. Ask questions. Say hello. We have a rich resource of human beings here for you to take part in. It’s beautiful. If you comment using anonymous, be sure to hit "subscribe" to the comments so that replies are emailed to you, or just be sure to check back in to see what has been posted!
Was just reminded that this video really fits here:
